Avoid Sports/Shopping
Men, leave
the sports talk at home. Unless your date shows a sudden burst
of enthusiasm for your favorite football team, shelve the athletic
discussions and focus on the date. To make this easier, avoid
sports bars or any other potential distraction that could divert
your attention away from your date. Ladies, don't talk about
your shoes. Your date may comment on something you're wearing,
but he's most likely suggesting you look good, not actually
wondering where you bought it or what a great bargain it was.
Listen!
While most people LOVE to talk about themselves, your job on
the first date is to listen. Answer questions, of course, but
focus most of your attention on your date and learn all you
can about him or her. When you're talking about yourself, keep
it short and to the point. Keep the conversation flowing and
make sure your date feels like he or she is the center of your
evening.
On that note, Don't Brag
While you may be at the top of your career, this night is about
you and your date, not about impressing the boss. While you
are allowed to come across as proud, avoid sounding arrogant
or conceded. In fact, you may want to minimize business talk
altogether.
Unplug
Turn OFF your cell phone and take your headset out of your ear.
Focus on your date, not an impending phone call or business
meeting. By all means, keep your phone with you, but turn it
off, tuck it away, and forget about it for the duration of your
date. Keep your mind focused on your evening together. Put away
all your your electronics. This includes camera phones, too.
No pictures!
Keep it Simple and Safe
There are certain topics that should be avoided on first dates.
Namely anything that's a little too personal for comfort. Avoid
discussing past relationships, breakups, or intimate family
details. If all goes well, there may come a time (many, many
dates later) when you can talk freely about such things, but
the first date is about finding common ground and comfort in
each others' company. With that in mind, avoid topics of long-term
relationships and marriage. First dates are about getting to
know one another, not determining if you can spend the rest
of your life with this person.
Don't Discuss Prices
Keep your budget to yourself. If you're concerned about finances,
choose a restaurant or cafe you know you can afford before you
get there. You don't want your date to think the price of the
meal is more important than her company.
Be Nice to Everyone
Treat your waiter, barista, and anyone else you encounter with
courtesy and kindness. Not only do you want to avoid complaining
and creating a potentially uncomfortable scene, your date will
be watching how you act with others. With this in mind, watch
how your date treats everyone, too.
When in
doubt, keep your eyes and mind focused on your date and indulge
in fun, flirtatious conversation. You can't go wrong!
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