Make Plans for the First Date

Preparation means planning. Make sure you have a vague idea of what you two will do, but keep it simple without too much romance. Drinks and dinner are perfect, it gives you both time to talk and get to know each other without too much distraction. But have a game plan in place for after dinner. If all goes well and you don't want to end the night early, consider your options. A walk in the park might be too intimate, but a walk in a hip part of town might be right up her alley. Physical activities, like roller skating or walking always make for fun after-dinner encounters. Whether you actually go out after dinner or decide to keep the conversation around the table, always have options available. That way when she says, "What would you like to do now?", you'll have an answer!

Think About the Conversation on the First Date

It may seem a bit contrived, but planning the conversation can actually save you from those awkward silences. Don't try and plan an entire night of talking, rather come up with questions or talking points that can save you in those lulls. While it's nice to have some anecdotes about yourself, your goal is to find out more about your date and how to make him or her feel more comfortable. Come up with conversation starters. "What did you used to do on childhood summer vacations?" "Why did you choose that college major?" "What's your favorite holiday? Why?" Keep them general and avoid questions that are too personal. Always start them with "What", "Why", or "How" to engage conversation and begin a new topic. Remember, you're trying to learn as much about your date as he or she is trying to learn about you.

Reconnect with a Friend Before the Date

You need to relax before your date and there's no better way to do that than conversing with a good friend. On the day of the date, arrange to have coffee or a phone call with someone who thinks very highly of you. Talk about anything positive, but try and keep the conversation away from your impending night. The goal of your talk is to relax your mind and boost your confidence. That way when you walk away from your friend, you're calm and self-assured. First impressions are key. Your date needs to see the best possible side of you and meeting up with a friend can help you remember why you're such a catch!

Anchor Yourself in Reality

The world does not revolve around your date. Nor will it end if it doesn't go well. Remember, your date is most likely just as nervous to impress you as you are to impress him or her. You need to remember that you are just as worthy of attention as your date. Instead of focusing on how you can impress your date, consider thinking about someone who has a crush on you. Boost your confidence, remember how special you are, and walk into that date with the knowledge that you deserve to share a great evening with someone equally as wonderful as you!

While first dates often feel like interrogations or interviews, remember that the goal of the evening is to have fun! So boost your confidence, relax, and have a great time!

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