Be Honest

Don't circumvent the issue. You are obviously looking for your conversation to lead to a date and she deserves to know that. If she's already a friend or acquaintance, just jump right in. You've obviously covered the small talk on previous occasions and simply want to find a time where you can get to know her better. So just ask! Most women (at least the ones you should be looking to date) are sensitive enough to let you down easy should they decide to say no. If she says yes, great! Solidify a time and place immediately.

If you are looking to approach someone you've never met before, always be sincere, honest, and friendly. Don't worry about a line or a joke to break the ice, just start with your name and a simple introduction. Shake her hand. This simple gesture not only solidifies the greeting, it also breaks the physical barrier between you. Strike up a conversation and, if things go well, simply ask her to meet you for drinks somewhere at a later date.

Avoid Emails and Text Messages

Nothing says distance like electronic mail or text messages. You want your first approach to be personal, so feel free to approach her in person or over the phone. Electronic messages are cold and lack the warmth and sincerity you can convey through your voice and body language. If you're really looking for a positive response to your persuasion, you need to ask her out face-to-face or over the phone. Keep in mind that your goal is to make her feel important enough for your devoted, undivided attention. Save the emails and texts for work and friends.

Smile

Always focus on her when you're talking to her. Asking for a date is no exception. Look her in the eyes and smile when you ask for that first date. This simple gesture lets her know you are completely dedicated to spending time with her and want nothing more than an evening in her company. As basic as this may seem, it's more powerful than what you comes out of your mouth.

Take Control

If you've determined you like someone and want to spend more time with them, determine a good time and place where you can meet again. Asking "if" you can see her again gives her a greater opportunity to say "no". If you've had a good time, say so. And solidify another time and place before the first date ends. If she needs time to look at her calendar, that's fine, but always ask her "when". This little word also implies that you are determined to see her again and won't take no for an answer.

Get HER Number

If you want a date, don't pass her your phone number. Instead, get her number so that you can follow up. By retaining her contact information you maintain control and don't have to wait around for her to call you. Also, by asking for her number, you automatically show interest which wins points in your favor even before you call her.

Relax

Relax! Confidence is key and that needs to come across in your tone of voice as much as it does through your words. Although it may seem like a difficult process, it's actually quite simple. She'll be able to read your tone of voice and body language, so be sure to take deep breaths and relax. If you're excited, great! Maintain a collected demeanor in order to come across as confident and cool. Ask friends to inflate your ego before you approach her or give yourself a silent motivational speech before you ask her out.

Just remember to smile, relax, and be sincere and direct. Every woman likes an honest man so start with your best approach and she's sure to say yes!

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