Go fishing

Although it may seem a bit juvenile, men are actually flattered when they hear that a friend of a friend thinks they're cute. If you've been eyeing a guy at work or the gym, have a friend fish for more information. Whether the friend subtly weaves it into conversation or flat out asks "are you seeing anyone?", it's a good way to find out more information about a guy's availability. Beware, though, this approach can be a problem if 1) your fishing friend is very cute and very single or 2) you feel really awkward having someone else do your own legwork.

Be blunt

If you like the more direct approach, great! Just make sure you're really direct. Although most men fantasize that every woman would love to take him home, few actually believe it. So when you ask a guy on a date, be very blunt and honest. For example, if you ask him if he's interested in seeing the latest super hero movie, he'll most likely say yes. At this point he may be convinced you're the coolest chick he knows, but probably doesn't make the connection to a date. On the other hand, If you ask him to dinner and the movie, he's more likely to get the hint.

Have a strategy

Don't approach a guy without a road map. If you're under the impression that the date will simply fall into place on its own, you're wrong. Have a date in mind, a specific time and place, before you ask a guy out. Not only does this convey confidence and conviction on your part, it also takes pressure off of the guy. Now you've made the plans and he doesn't need to sweat it! Tell him you'd like to meet him for dinner/drinks at a specific place later and solidify a time. Make it definite!

Go Easy and Relax

This applies as much to the approach as to the date itself. Although confidence is always a turn-on (always!), make sure you don't overcharge your batteries and come off as arrogant. Be confident but sweet and friendly at the same time. Although most men love strong women, they still need to feel in control and should be approached with care. Smile, relax, and simply ask if he'd like to accompany you to your favorite restaurant tomorrow. You don't want to risk emasculating him or making him feel trapped, he's likely to run. Even though he'll probably say yes, his subconscious needs to know there's a way out. Cast the line, see if he bites, and reel him in nice and slow.

This rule also applies to the actual date. Don't over do it! Just plan on a simple evening with no pre-planned romantic interludes. Anything more will most likely scare him off. Enjoy his company and conversation and he'll enjoy yours. Any other expectations will put unnecessary and unwelcome pressure on the evening. Keep in mind that spontaneity can be as fun as it is sexy!

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